Monday, 5 August 2013

Wellington's Sweet mothers kitchen caramel slice

Having read on another blog that Sweet Mothers Kitchen did a memorable caramel slice I mentally filed it away for a sunny day. And today I found myself in the neighborhood with a wee bit of slice time up my sleeve.  
The place has a retro Americana feel both in decor and menu. Key Lime pie and peanut butter milkshakes! I didn't notice the milkshake options till after I'd ordered a chai. Oh well, something for next time!  The chai was nicely spiced and pleasantly warm. A hot one is a rare blessing indeed. 
The slice, with a nice home made look that would be right at home at a bring a plate supper of old (before the invasion of cup cakes and store bought imposters). The base reminds me of a sweet short crust pastry rather than a biscuit base. Perhaps an inspiration from the sweet pies in the display?  Thankfully not made with coconut. The caramel is generous, dense and fudgey. The icing has a lovely homemade chocolate flavor with a hint of vanilla.  Overall a very pleasant and moreish treat. I was glad of a good sized piece although felt the sugar rush halfway through!
Three and a half stars from me. Maybe even four!

Monday, 22 October 2012

Flow Day

I love days like this!

The sun is shining and I am in the flow.

Youngest child is at pre-school, and older sibling is at home on a teachers only day.  We've done birthday shopping, had a treat morning tea out, and walked/rode in the sun.  At home we've got washing on the line drying in the sun and breeze.  We trimmed some of the hedges and filled up the wheelie bin.  I lifted and transplanted some bulbs, planted among the new lavender plants for a lovely surprise late next winter.  A lovely lunch together, then some time drawing with pastels.  Next we are out into the sunshine again to pick up youngest from pre-school.  We'll go so that oldest has plenty of time to have a reminiscing play!

And dinner is simmering in the crockpot!

Oh how I love a flow day!

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Is your TV more important than people in your life?

Is your TV more important than people in your life? Probably not .... Of course not??
It is a funny thing really, and a case of what you are used to. In our house, when the tv is on, it is because we are watching it. We are blobbed out in front of it watching things we have recorded earlier. We pause it, or better still, turn it off to talk to each other. It is on for short periods. Our kids screen time is limited to DVDs or pre recorded programs.
So it is really off putting to me when I am visiting someone else's home where the tv is on all the time. Yes I know everyone is different and when in Rome and all that. But here is what it says to me: "we are watching tv right now and we don't want to talk with you". So whether I've walked five minutes or driven 500 km, it feels rather rude to be frank that it is on all the time.
Tv is great. It is entertaining, sometimes educational or thought provoking. It is relaxing at the end of a hard day. But is it more important than connecting with people in your life???

Saturday, 18 August 2012

How did I get to be such a greenie

I am passionate about the environment and I show it in practical ways.  I line dry my washing, I walk just about everywhere (I would cycle, but it is harder with small children), I recycle and re-use in an almost obsessive way (my kids do their drawings on the back of already used paper, and I use the same as for note paper and lists).  I frequent charity shops as a way of reducing overall consumption.  My kids lunch boxes never ever contain pre-packaged or individually wrapped foods.  I opt for minimal packaging and consider food miles and seasonality when buying food.  We've double glazed and insulated and considered the best heating options.  I could go on, in fact I think I just did.  But how did I get to be this way?

Less than ten years ago we were a two car no kid family guzzling power and petrol in a way you wouldn't believe.  Despite living in a sunny (drought ridden) environment I dried all my washing in the dryer.  And I didn't think twice about carbon footprint or any such thing.  So what changed?

Well the seeds had been sown in childhood.  Mum recycled, and by virtue of living on the benefit, poverty ensured no car and plenty of savings measures!  We were cold and well used to walking everywhere!  I guess I threw some of that out the window when I grew up and left home and had money to spend.  My wake up call was, as it turns out, watching 'An Inconventient Truth'.  An awesome film I highly recommend.  That and a workshop run by our local (at the time Hornsby in NSW) council called Earthwise.  They had me calculate our energy consumption and, oh boy, it was shocking.  I think it was 2 - 3 times the average.  So my husband and I started a mission to save power.  Living in a drought environment the next target was water.  Then we took up cycling and became aware that cycling for transport was a good option.  Before long I was doing all the grocery shopping by bicycle (that makes you think twice about how much you buy!), we installed a water tank and re-did our home heating.  We used a power consumption meter to greatly reduce our home power usage, and took up line drying the washing.
http://www.hornsby.nsw.gov.au/environment/sustainability/hornsby-earthwise


Then kids came along.  A whole new set of opportunities to help or harm the environment.  We chose cloth nappies (line dried, of course!), breast feeding, and a robust buggy we could use to walk just about everywhere.  The choices continue as the children get older - ensuring they are educated and entertained within walking distance, and we chose our home location accordingly (now in NZ).  They are learning about the environment and I am so proud of their awareness.  At school they have a lunchbox challenge, where the lunchbox is meant to be zero waste, i.e. no non-reusable packaging.  In my Son's class his was the only one that passed the challenge.  He's five.  He came home and told me about it and said "So keep up the good work Mum".  He also came home and told me we should use the car less.  I did point out that we only use it once or twice a week.  He seemed satified with that!

If nothing else it makes good economic sense.  Those individually packaged snacks are so expensive, and less healthy.  And the cost of running a second car (and car dependence leads to 'needing' two cars) is in the order of $9 - $17 grand a year.  On one income, who can afford that!  And to those who say the weather is an obstacle, well check this out:  http://www.copenhagenize.com/2011/01/cycling-in-winter-in-copenhagen.html.  Truly inspiring.  Boy would I love a cargo bike.

So if you haven't watched it, hire it today!

Tuesday, 24 July 2012

Keeping our Kids Safe - Who is responsible?

The coroners reports is out for the Kahui Twins tragic death.  There is a widespread call for mandatory reporting by health professionals.  But I feel strongly we can't just make "other people" responsible for averting such tragedies.  WE ARE ALL responsible.  As a community we are responsible for providing good parenting to our children, so hopefully they grow up to be good parents themselves.  However parenting is a tough unrelenting job.  Parents need support, especially faced with the super-challenging early days of integrating a tiny baby into their lives, and particularly when they have other children.  Instead, what they often get from family, friends and the community at large are attitudes like "leave them to it", "they knew what they were getting themselves into", "they made their bed let them lie in it", "they know where we are", "they'll ask if they need help", "I'm sure they'll be fine".
Well I can tell you this:  I am a capable, educated, calm and moderate person.  However when I hear about cases of small babies dying at the hands of their parents I say quietly to myself "there but for the grace of god go I".  Yes, I can think of times after 36 hours without sleep that I came very close to hurting my precious wee baby.  It is easy to say that there are no excuses, and that 'these people' are monsters.  But the fact is they are humans, imperfect humans, doing a very tough job and often without enough support.  It is not enough to have Dad supporting Mum.  They need a whole safety net of support around them, and that keeps the babies safe too.
So rather than focus on mandatory reporting and putting the state in charge of it all, let's all ask ourselves 'how can I help?'.  Can you offer a supportive smile to a parent (as opposed to the frequent disapproving glares).  How about phoning that member of your family with a young baby and saying "I am coming over to help you, make a list of what I can do (and not expecting the cups of tea to be made for you!)", or cooking a meal or making sandwiches and dropping them by, or mowing the lawn so Dad can spend more time helping Mum, hanging out the washing, taking the older children for an hour, a day, a weekend.  How about taking time out of our 'too busy' lives to take the risk of getting involved in someone else's life so you can be part of a community that keeps its children safe by taking care of the carers.

Wednesday, 6 June 2012

The 'Stay at Home' mine field


I have been a working parent, and am now a stay at home parent.  I am fortunate that I can do this and I enjoy it.  I like spending the time with my kids and having a well run house, and I like not feeling like I am juggling all the time without really keeping anyone happy, which was how I felt when working.  However what I don't like is all the attitude and angst that comes from others regarding my choice.  The frequently asked question about when I will go back to work.  (I am working, I just don't get paid).  The implication that I must be bored.  (I am not bored, my household and parenting responsibilities alone keep me busy, but I also do volunteer work for my community.  So NOT bored.)  And then there is the conversation killed moment: "So what do you do"  "I'm a stay at home parent", followed by the questioner looking alarmed and desperately trying to find someone else to talk to.  Ok so lets aim for utopia: I won't ask working parents when they plan to stop work, and they can stop asking me when I plan to start!  I AM doing something worthwhile, I'm not judging those who choose to work, because that is cool too, but just ask them not to put a negative spin on my choice.  Truce!!!!

Sunday, 3 June 2012

The begining

This blog will be about a love of cake (slices in particular, chocolate especially) and some bits about the domestic arts.  It will be about asserting the value of being an at-home, home-running, domesticated parent.  It will at times be rather indulgent and self congratulatory, but perhaps also contain some helpful tips for those who like to be organised and efficient in the running of their homes.  It may also contain some high minded rants about the environment and healthy eating for kids.