Keeping our Kids Safe - Who is responsible?

The coroners reports is out for the Kahui Twins tragic death.  There is a widespread call for mandatory reporting by health professionals.  But I feel strongly we can't just make "other people" responsible for averting such tragedies.  WE ARE ALL responsible.  As a community we are responsible for providing good parenting to our children, so hopefully they grow up to be good parents themselves.  However parenting is a tough unrelenting job.  Parents need support, especially faced with the super-challenging early days of integrating a tiny baby into their lives, and particularly when they have other children.  Instead, what they often get from family, friends and the community at large are attitudes like "leave them to it", "they knew what they were getting themselves into", "they made their bed let them lie in it", "they know where we are", "they'll ask if they need help", "I'm sure they'll be fine".
Well I can tell you this:  I am a capable, educated, calm and moderate person.  However when I hear about cases of small babies dying at the hands of their parents I say quietly to myself "there but for the grace of god go I".  Yes, I can think of times after 36 hours without sleep that I came very close to hurting my precious wee baby.  It is easy to say that there are no excuses, and that 'these people' are monsters.  But the fact is they are humans, imperfect humans, doing a very tough job and often without enough support.  It is not enough to have Dad supporting Mum.  They need a whole safety net of support around them, and that keeps the babies safe too.
So rather than focus on mandatory reporting and putting the state in charge of it all, let's all ask ourselves 'how can I help?'.  Can you offer a supportive smile to a parent (as opposed to the frequent disapproving glares).  How about phoning that member of your family with a young baby and saying "I am coming over to help you, make a list of what I can do (and not expecting the cups of tea to be made for you!)", or cooking a meal or making sandwiches and dropping them by, or mowing the lawn so Dad can spend more time helping Mum, hanging out the washing, taking the older children for an hour, a day, a weekend.  How about taking time out of our 'too busy' lives to take the risk of getting involved in someone else's life so you can be part of a community that keeps its children safe by taking care of the carers.